Getting What You Want


Are You Menopausal? Congrats and Welcome to the Club!2

I recently came across a new book by Sheryl Sandberg, the COO at Facebook. Her book, Lean In outlines her concept of how women can get what they want in the workplace; how to not fear asking for what you want or put limits on yourself.

Much of this issue of My Menopause Magazine discusses the importance of women getting what they want, not only in the workplace but also in their relationships.

Every woman should be asking, “How do I get what I want?” and not settling for the position taken in the Rolling Stones song, “You can’t always get what you want, but you get what you need.”

In the first feature article, Red Hot Mamas founder Karen Giblin addresses menopause in the workplace and the importance of women asking for what they want and the importance of management becoming more aware of and responsive to menopausal women’s needs in the work place so they can have a happier and more productive work force.

Whether you are at work or at home, in a board room, the dining room or the bedroom, there is one essential ingredient in getting what you want: ask for it clearly and calmly.

Desiree Holt, a 76-year-old awardwinning erotic romance author provides an insightful interview on her perspective on how to keep the sizzle in your relationship and get what you want from sex as you age.

Communications coach Elayne Savage, PhD provides tips for improving communications in your relationship to prevent it from breaking down and negatively impacting your marriage, and what you can do to prevent it.

Holistic health counselor Peg Doyle tells you what questions to ask yourself about how your stress, lifestyle and nutrition to get more out of your life.

These articles have one theme in common – whether you are at work or at home, in a board room, the dining room or the bedroom, there is one essential ingredient in getting what you want: ask for it clearly and calmly. It requires looking at yourself in the mirror with the confidence and conviction of a person who has wisdom, value and believes in herself; and yes you also have some needs and wants. Some battles you can negotiate; some you may choose to walk away from; and some needs may be met by alternative approaches.

You know how valuable your contribution is to the business, organization or relationship. But it doesn’t stop there. It requires a mindset that says I may only get what I need some of the time, but some of the time, I’m going to get what I want.

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