I recently heard these Johnny Mercer lyrics on the radio:
“You’ve got to accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
And latch on to the affirmative
Don’t mess with Mister In-Between”
Accentuate the positive; eliminate the negative. Celebrate your successes.
All too often I talk with women in my office who are struggling with low self-esteem. Many of them are extremely accomplished and all of them have done numerous things to be proud of: raised great kids; worked to support their home, community and personal needs; helped their aging parents. Of course there are always some circumstances that are not as positive: a downturn at work; a separation from a spouse; a failed promotion; a business venture that didn’t work out; a kid with a problem. The list goes on and on. Life is filled with ups and downs. The important thing is that there is always the positive side of the ledger that can be accentuated; the many things that have gone well or extremely well. The positive things you can and should rightly celebrate.
The question is, “What does your mind choose to focus on?” Can you zero in on the positive? Your mind is like a microscope. You put a slide on the stage of your mind’s microscope and start to focus up and down until you get to the area of interest. Once a thought gets into view, you use a higher objective and begin to really focus on what you choose to see. You see what you choose to look at.
If you focus on the things that are positive, that is what you will primarily see. If you focus on the things that are negative, that is all you can see. The goal is to focus on and accentuate the positive; on the successes. Relish them; stop and savor them; take a moment and think only of them. And feel that great positive energy spread throughout your body.