Faking It Ain’t Making It in the Bedroom

Just revealed: Your partner isn’t fooled as easily as you think. So faking it ain’t making it!

Everyone knows the delicatessen scene in “When Harry Met Sally.” Meg Ryan’s faked orgasm had all the customers wanting what she had. But a new study says your partner isn’t likely going to be fooled. The study findings showed that both women and men are equally able to tell if their partner was satisfied or not.

The study published in the April issue of the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior investigated 84 couples by asking each partner individually about their levels of sexual satisfaction, sexual communication, ability to recognize emotions and relationship satisfaction.

According to lead author Erin Fallis, “We found that, on average, both men and women have fairly accurate and unbiased perceptions of their partners’ sexual satisfaction.”

“We also found that having good communication about sexual issues helped participants to understand their partners’ sexual satisfaction,” she said. “However, even if sexual communication was lacking, a person could still be fairly accurate in gauging his or her partner’s sexual satisfaction if he or she was able to read emotions well.”

The researchers explained that a “sexual script,” lets the cat out of the bag because couples develop a routine that guides their sexual routines.

Fallis said, “We believe that having the ability to accurately gauge each other’s sexual satisfaction will help partners to develop sexual scripts that they both enjoy. Specifically, being able to tell if their partners are sexually satisfied will help people decide whether to stick with a current routine or try something new.”

So if things aren’t going well in the bedroom, now may be the time to get some professional help to improve the situation. Based on these findings, it won’t be a secret from your partner for long.

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